The Bane Bane Game: Playing It Forward

"I want to go and talk with her." "You want to do what?""I want to talk to her.  She has lost a son, too.  Maybe there's something I can do or say to help her." Her words stunned.  Stunned.  How could she, who had just felt death's sting so...

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want to play?

"Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in...

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Alive Again

We'd been at it most of the night. Papers were scattered, phone numbers scrawled on napkins. There was a celebration to plan, and, like the one whom it honored, it had to be perfect. Working out grief in the lines of a to-do list, I had been able, somehow, to suspend...

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what money is for …

rare. some diamonds are rare, and you pay a pretty penny for them. some diseases are rare, and they change your whole life. so far, the pain of losing Bane has been worsened by the fact that there are no clear answers as to what caused him to get sick. imagine your...

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Not a Day …

My friend Sonya wore shiny silver shoes.   My friend Drason looked sharp in a purple bow tie.   Guests entered the sanctuary through a rainbow of bright-colored balloons, and nobody who was in the know wore black.  A banner above the door welcomed friends with this...

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Join Us to Celebrate Bane …

Come join us as we celebrate the life of our sweet baby Bane. Visitation will be held:    Friday, August 13th 4:00 -- 8:00 p.m. and  Saturday, August 14th 12:00 p.m. until time of service   Bethel World Outreach Center 5670 Granny White Pike Brentwood, TN 37027  ...

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Long Awaited Child…

  nine months.   Belly swelled and labor pains and a child came into this world. Mama rocked him, held him close. Daddy’s strong hands lifted him high. His cry rang loud and long, but his laughter parted clouds, brought sunshine through. His smile:  it was...

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